I Don't Know What To Name This Post

This is my third take on this particular blog. It's hard for me to get these words right, but I've realized that part of my problem is that I'm trying to put too much information in here without being too specific... See? Problem. Here goes, third time's a charm.

There's a girl a couple years older than I am who picks up hours in our bakery. She's a nice person but she's going through some tough times. She's decided to divorce her husband of 10 years and she's bitter... Very, very, very bitter. Bitter beyond bitter. Every time I see her she asks me if I'm sure I want to marry Branden, if I know what I'm getting into, if I REALLY think this is a good idea, etc. She also asks why we had such a long engagement and other questions she shouldn't be asking.

Whatever the answers to her questions may be, my life is none of her business. By the time we get married, Branden and I will have been engaged for nearly two years and, no matter the reasons, it was a decision we made together. There was compromise involved- I would have been fine with a shorter engagement and really wanted to be married before we moved- but I'm not unhappy with the way things have turned out.

I feel like she's being very rude and I have a strong desire to yell at her. Yes, Branden and I have had our fair share of problems- maybe more than our fair share- but she has no right to judge my relationship just because her's is falling apart. I feel like she's attempting to project her issues into my life. She's never met Branden, she knows very little about my actual relationship and yet she thinks that because we've had some similar problems she MUST know what my relationship is like and where it's headed. Yeah, it was hard when Branden didn't have a job but, unlike her soon-to-be-ex, he GOT a job and is now working 40 hrs a week doing something that wasn't his first choice in jobs! Not very surprisingly, a large weight has been lifted since he began working again and many of our problems have been vastly improved.

There are a couple reasons that I don't write about fights and problems on here all that often. The first is that it wouldn't be fair as it's part of Branden's life as well and I can only tell my side. The second, and most important, is that I don't need every person I've ever met weighing in on my relationship. There are people I go to when Branden and I have problems- thank you for always being there for me and not judging, Katie- and they get to say what they feel needs to be said. I don't always like what is said but these are also people who give their thoughts and then still let me live my life with nary an I-told-you-so. Aside from these amazing people, I have no need for more input. Don't take it personally if you're not one of them... You probably have enough of your own problems to deal with without taking on mine and it doesn't mean I don't care about you or value your thoughts. It's just, as this girl is proving, there is such a thing as too many opinions.