This is something that's been bouncing around in my head for a while but it was brought back up while I was watching TV. A few months ago, one of the shows I watch had a couple of episodes centering around the death of a character's father. Today one of those episodes was on as a rerun and I was reminded of a question that was brought up: If your father died today, what would his last words to you be?
The first time I saw it I answered without hesitation: "Be a good kid. I love you." Thankfully, that is still my answer. Not because I haven't talked with my dad, but because every phone conversation ends the same way. I am the luckiest girl in the world because my dad loves me and tells me so every time we talk. As a matter of fact, my mom loves me, too, and also tells me every time we talk! Turns out I'm beyond lucky. :)
One of my favorite things about Branden is that he never gets annoyed with the number of times each day that I tell him I love him... And I tell him A LOT. Even better, he also tells me he loves me at random times. I plan on telling my kids that I love them all the time as well. The word love will be one of the first that they learn.
My friend Kazia once told me that no matter how mad she was at her husband, she always said I love you before she hung up the phone. It doesn't matter how you feel in that moment, what matters is how you feel overall.
Branden and I have taken that thought to heart which is why some of our phone conversations end something like this:
"You know what, I don't really wanna talk about this now!"
"Fine! I love you!"
"Well, I love you, too!"
And then one of us hangs up.
Funny as it may seem, the most important thing was said last. Whatever we're fighting over probably doesn't matter. Love does. If I never got to talk to him again, at least the last thing I said was, "I love you."
I don't really believe in making New Year's resolutions because they rarely last. Instead, I'd like to challenge every one of the five-or-so of you who read this blog to make a Life Resolution: Always tell the ones you love that you love them. Say it every time you think it. Say it when you're less than happy and when you're on top of the world. And say it every time you say good-bye. They're the most important words you can say and you won't regret it.
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Good to see you posting again! And such a great post too. I do my best to do this. In fact, I think it took a long time for Tyler to get used to how often I say it. Some people think that by saying it so much that you are making it cheap. I disagree. I would rather be told 20 times every day than once every week. Come on, this is one of the only things that does not have to be scarce to raise the value.
You're so right! I'm good about saying the L word.. except when I'm mad. I'll take your challenge and work on that! Hope you are doing well :)
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I love you! And I will take up your new year's resolution for me since you accepted mine :-)
that is our habit, and has been for over 12 years now. good to remind ourselves of what is most important!
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