Why Would You Even Ask That?

Today at work, a guy asked me for my phone number. I won't lie, I felt a little flattered. Of course, I immediately told him that I'm engaged and my fiance probably wouldn't like it if he called me. That sort of worked... He tried to feel out how likely I was to stick with Branden until our wedding- VERY likely- and if I thought I'd stay married. After assuring him that, yes, I intend to stay with my current significant other for the rest of my life, he decided to leave me alone.

Once he was gone, I laughingly told my manager, Dana, and the assistant, Kerri. Kerri laughed as well but Dana's response surprised me. She asked if the guy would have been worth cheating for. WHAT?!?! NO!!! It doesn't matter how good looking or rich, etc., he may have been, no guy that I've met once is worth throwing out my relationship. For that matter, no guy that I've met many times would be worth throwing out my relationship! I couldn't believe that she'd even ask that question. (Just as a side note, he wasn't at all attractive to me but even if he'd be gorgeous I would have still turned him down.) Thinking about this afterward, I realized that I just don't understand why people cheat.

Branden and I have been dating for two years on August 18 and we've been engaged for 9 1/2 months. Before we were officially dating, we talked for hours on end while I was living in AZ and spent tons of time together once I moved back to UT. I have invested more than 2 1/2 years in this relationship. Branden didn't seem to like when I said this to him but that's over 2 1/2 years of work that I'd be tossing out the window. No matter if he likes the thought or not, if you want to make a relationship last, it does take work. So these last years have been fun and laughter and struggling and sacrifice and happy times and cuddling and some fighting and compromising. But most of all, it's been the kind of work I don't mind doing because the benefits are great...Oh, yeah, there's also been lots of love. :) Every day I've made the choice to be with him.

I cannot imagine just ignoring all of that for... Nothing. There's no guarantee that any guy I cheated with would make me even half as happy as I am now. In fact, I would be very unhappy for a long time if I were to mess things up with Branden. It's possible that the reason I don't ever even contemplate cheating is because I'm in a relationship worth keeping. This doesn't mean that I think cheating is excusable if you aren't happy. Even in my less-than-worthwhile relationships I'd never have cheated. The way I see it, if you're thinking about cheating, maybe it's time to reevaluate something. But maybe that's just me. One way or the other, the only guy who will be taking me out on dates and getting kisses from me is my handsome fiance, Branden.