I began writing a post about the dress I purchased today and it turned into something else entirely. Since I actually like the way the other post turned out and I didn't want to ruin it with the other things I wanted to write, you get two posts today.
I have a bit of a pride problem right now. There's something that bugs me and I have to admit it but even admitting it is hard. See, Branden's friends and relatives are accustomed to a certain caliber of wedding. It involves a full meal for all guests and required RSVPs. It includes things like DJs and bartenders. It also includes a price tag that is well out of our budget.
I'm not worried about my family and friends. They are accustomed to weddings that were planned and paid for in six months or less. The receptions we generally attend include cake, dinner mints and Sprite with serbet. That is the wedding we can afford and, for the most part, I'm fine with that... Until I think about the expectaions of others. I tell myself that there's nothing wrong with the wedding I'm going to have but there's still this piece of me that feels this burning shame.
Let me tell you, that's my pride hurting. I need to let it go but I hate the thought that someone may think our wedding is less than it should be. I know I shouldn't feel this way. I know that in the long run, everyone will undertand that Branden was out of work for nearly a year and we are on a strict budget. But that stupid pride! I'm going to have to work on not worrying about what other's may think.
Along those lines, I purchased a prom dress today. It cost me a grand total of $133 and, aside from the lack of train, which I didn't want anyway, it looks every bit the wedding dress. It's unlikely that anyone- aside from those I tell- will know that it came from JC Penney instead of a bridal shop. If anyone does realize it, oh well! I am happy with my choice- so much so that I became all metiforical (see my above post). I guess that's what I need to try to keep in mind: If we're happy with our wedding, that's all that matters.
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And let it be your OWN! There are still little details about our wedding day that I didn't want/agree with 100% but it all came down to those expectations/hurt feelings. It really isn't a big deal, but I still remember them, don't I? ;)
Absolutely nothing wrong with purchasing a prom dress as a wedding dress...
As long as you look the way you want to look, and feel the way you want to feel, nothing else matters.
Besides, I don't really know how people justify spending $1000's of dollars on a dress they will wear for 1 day....
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